A lot of this year has been really rough on my dad. He’s had health problems off and on, he has Diabetes and high blood pressure…a stroke years ago left him blind in one eye.
But up til now he’s kept everything pretty well maintained through diet and medications,lots and lots of medications and my mom who’s been fantastic about keeping him healthy.
He got glaucoma in his remaining eye earlier this year and because the thought of being totally blind was unacceptable to him he elected to have an eye surgery which helped a lot. He was the happiest I had seen him in a long time and talking about possibly being able to drive again once he got the okay.
He never got he okay, however because he starting having other heath problems that came fast and without anyone knowing what was going on.
For a man who hates hospitals and just likes to spend time at home-this year has quite frankly sucked.
This is a picture of my father and mother the day before he was admitted to the hospital.
His last doctor visit was the day after my daughter’s birthday party and he was admitted to the hospital that same day, he hasn’t been home since.
He had so so many tests and none of them showed any cause for his symptoms…the last one was a bone marrow test and that one came back positive for non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma.
Because of his age, he’s eighty,because he is so weak,and because we’ve been advised that treatments as well as a second necessary bone marrow test would probably do more harm than good, our family has decided on my father not going through with chemotherapy. We discussed it with him and he was in agreement with this.
We thought he’d be able to go to a managed care facility where he undergo rehabilitation so that he might be able to get his legs strong again and walk before going back home.
That was a huge mistake because none of us realized how much he would be pushed during his physical therapy. His blood pressure spiked at an alarming rate during a walking session and he is back in the hospital again.
If I could undo the decision to send him to the managed care facility I would. I wish now we had sent him home as I know this would have been something he would’ve appreciated more.
The decision was a hard one but given the choice between managed care where it seemed like he would walk again and go home a little more like himself and just going home with Hospice….well, the managed care seemed a more hopeful choice.
We had no idea how quickly he would get weaker so quickly. The bone marrow test had tested positive for only 4% cancer but we had already been told that were we to go through with another bone marrow test the results would almost certainly be much higher. There’s just been such a huge change in his condition from the time we made that decision. Last week we were able to talk with him and now it’s extremely hard to understand what he is saying. They’ve had to put a feeding tube in through his nose because he was having a lot of trouble swallowing.
This is very,very hard-it’s heart breaking and I’m just trying be as helpful as I can be. I’m trying to spend as much time with him while trying not to neglect my young children and husband.
We are very lucky to have a large family that can take turns helping, everyone is doing what they can. My mother has been spending the night at the hospital with him every night at her insistence but we’ve finally talked her into letting us do that instead.She has health problems of her own and we worry that all of this will be too much for her.My dad is not sleeping much anymore and because he wakes up startled and confused we are extremely afraid that he might try pulling out his feeding tube.
Prayers for our family and him would greatly be appreciated.
I don’t want him to suffer..but it’s very hard to imagine having to let go.
I’ve been having fun making the girls hair clips for a while now so I knew I wanted them to have something for Thanksgiving.
I came up with some pumpkin pie hair clips but as you can see there are a lot of options when it comes to felt and personalizing hair clips to suit the occasion.
I have a video up at YouTube that shows how I made the pumpkin pie ones:
And while we are on the subject of hair clips I also wanted to share the neat hair clip holder I bought recently to keep all of these off the ground and hopefully lead to calmer mornings.(What? It could happen…)
It’s from Tabitha’s Creations and you can find more of these here in lots of different patterns.
We hope to add a head band holder to our wall next.
If you liked this post you might like this one on a hand print turkey necklace that I made last year.
Chloe the Gizmo(I’m told five year olds aren’t supposed to be called Gizmo anymore…who knew?) recently had a joint birthday party with her cousin. She’s not actually her cousin but we say cousin to avoid confusion. You see, her mother is my niece which I guess would make them second cousins… anyway Chloe and her cousin are a year younger than each other and their birthdays fall a week apart. When my niece and I were talking about it and trying to figure out which day each of us could throw a party and not have it fall on the same day and also which day most people might be able to go to it we came to the conclusion that a joint party was the best option.
Picmonkey helped with our invites
Because both of our girls love pink and anything glittery and or girly we went with a princess theme.
Pinterest served me well as it usually does in cases like this.
I found out how to make a balloon banner which came out almost as nice as the one I found here.
The party was at a park and transporting the thing plus all the other stuff we needed was a bit of headache but I’d love to make one of these again if I had an at home party.
The post suggests using waxed thread and I couldn’t find that (possibly because I didn’t look for it for longer than five minutes) so I ended up using unflavored tooth floss which worked out pretty good.
I couldn’t resist …I mean they’re unicorn poop cookies for crying out loud! I thought the girls might think they were a little gross but they just found them funny and yummy. I used a sugar cookie recipe I found here.
I did face painting on all of the littles and that is definitely something I want to do again. Up to this point the only face painting I had done was small pictures on a cheek. I was inspired to go for a full face paint this time and liked the results a lot more.
Overall it was a pretty nice party. You try to plan these things and hope every thing turns out for the best but the are things you can’t control. The party was outside and it didn’t rain but it was a really windy day which meant none of our table covers stayed on for very long.
Also if I had to do all over again I would’ve made less goody bags but gotten cuter things to put in them. As it turned out we had a lot less kids show up than we planned on.
The kids had fun though and I enjoyed spending the day with my family so all in all it was a really good day.
I was a clean fairy for Halloween this year and I was totally being sarcastic
I’m not an organized person. I’m not the most tidy person.
I don’t necessarily want to be super organized nor super tidy but it would be nice to be able to find a pair of shoes for all of to wear when we want to go out.
It was with that in mind that I first started the Flylady program.
It didn’t work for me.
(This is not to say that Flylady wouldn’t work for others-it obviously does, I read many testimonials to that effect-the program just wasn’t a good fit for me.)
When I went in search for an alternative to Flylady because I really do still need help getting myself sorted I found the Habithacker program.
I do not follow the program to the letter but I have gotten a lot of good from what I’ve incorporated into my life.
I am cleaning in 11 minutes bursts and getting a lot more done than I thought I could.
I do take the 8 minute breaks about every 30 minute or so.
Sunday is my creative day and while I try to be creative everyday it does help to know that if I’m unable to I have more time to spend on a project on that Sunday.
My poo spots are still horrible but better and I’m working on making them better almost every day. (poo is my phrase by the way the Habithacker uses a slightly stronger word so if words like that offend you…be warned.)
Every year, 30-40 young Amish men descend on the cozy little town of West Kootenai, Montana, arriving in the spring to live there for six months and receive “resident” status for the hunting season in the fall. They arrive as bachelors, but go home with brides!
Sarah Shelter has lived in West Kootenai for the last ten years and wonders if she will ever fall in love. Since the tragic death of her best friend, she carries her memories in a jar along with the small items connected to them. For just as long, she’s also been carrying around her emotions instead of allowing them to penetrate deep into her heart.
Now she’s met a kind and gentle man who may be able to break down the wall. But can Sarah risk her heart to finally achieve her dreams?
That is what the Memory Jar asks and I enjoyed finding the answer to that question.
I like that the book made it’s characters seem like people just like you and me-Sarah has doubts, she’s struggling with letting go of her pain and growing up without someone who was a really big part of her life.
I felt that the author did a really good job of conveying Sarah’s feelings and why she was unable to move past her pain.
I can’t really explain why but reading this book had a calming effect on me. The settings and the people were so good and maybe that was why. I’m not saying that these people were not flawed because some of them were very flawed! I am saying thought that the entire book was a joy to read.
I have to admit that I do tend to enjoy books about the Amish community but this one was different to others that I have read. The Amish community of West Kootenai are not as strict as other Amish communities I have read about in the past. That Sarah has a job in an English bakery seems to be okay, that she wants to decorate her baked goods “fancy” doesn’t go over quite as well.
The title of the book has to do with Memory Jars that Sarah collects and that aid her in finally embracing her future in the end.
I have gone on a lot about Sarah here but she did capture my attention as a reader, I generally liked her character and sympathized with it. The love interest in the book,Jathan, honestly had me very frustrated most of the time. I felt that a lot of the problems between Sarah and Jathan would have been avoided had Jathan been more true to his feelings rather than just doing as he was told by others. (I get the honor your parent thing, I do but…)
Overall I really liked this book and would recommend it to others. I hope to read more from this author soon.
**I received this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review as part of a Litfuse Publicity Blog Tour. To see more about the book, author, and other reviews please click HERE.**
Halloween day…early morning. She was tired of being lava girl and decided to be a princess instead. She was also ready for trick or treating at 9 am and not afraid to show it
At a trunk or treat..Chloe’s lost her wig because she’s decided with her hair up she loks more like Cinderella. (Don’t tell her she’s wearing the dress from Tangled. Don’t suggest that she’s maybe Tangled after Ryder cuts her hair off. ) Cat is content in her Taylor Swift costume and I’m a cleaning fairy
A close up of my costume…wings do make cleaning more fun by the way